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Mental illness-Can someone guide me?

Can someone guide me?

I am going to convey a message to all parents the importance of developing your child with affection and constant communication. A wrong turn and aggressive approach may lead to a scar of a child’s life and may lead him to be in depression and phobia. I am going to relate this lesson with a real case that I am handling a 20 year old teen with depression. He was referred by a mental hospital. The story line goes on that some misunderstanding and argument broke up between two brothers. Due to an agitation and revenge, this young guy killed his elder brother.


These are some of his complain, describing his life.

Dear Sir, I have a bad experience during my childhood, I was beaten by my parents and I feel my family hate me. Currently I feel unsecure at home and frustrated with the constant cursing and blaming at home. I wished I could disappear and live alone, but it is not easy. I have no friends because they make fun of me. I have a dreaded phobia to be among friends. My family referred me to a mental hospital. Once they wanted to go overseas for holidays insisting me to follow them, but I refuse. They lock the door and leave me out with no place to live. They do not want me to live alone by myself perhaps worried of my mental condition. Can someone guide me to resolve my problem?

Dear Bro, I feel like hugging you and comforting you for the mesh up in your life, you are virtually trapped in your mind and heart. It seems your dreams become nightmares.

Let’s peel off the problem you are facing piece by piece. Literally parents love their children and protect them from any harm. You may have done some dreaded mistakes and it hurts the feelings of your family members and friends. Your mistake could not be forgiven by them, thus the continuous blaming and cursing. Your family referred you to a mental hospital because you may harm somebody in your neighbourhood.

First off: I want you to be in control and calm down. Whatever mistakes you have done, can’t be undone. Let’s face this; other people will never forget what you have done, they would not even acknowledge your goodness.

You need to manage your life, be steadfast and strong because if you can’t hold on to your senses then the situation will get worse. You need to feed your mind with positive thoughts and put aside those negative thoughts and feelings.

Writer: Dear readers; this guy actually has a personality disorder. His attributes are: Getting a close acquaintance with his counselor and believe me contacting the counselor most of the time, wining like a child. A physiatrist referred him as mentally immature. If you handled this type of person, be weary because as care givers, you need to have a listening ear and motivate him all the way, but at times it can be annoying. You need to know your rights and avoid yourself from stress, because the mentally unstable person will call you frequently even though it is at night. Be prepared to control yourself and avoid being too personal and inviting him to your home. I understand you want to help, but don’t be a HERO, resolving his problems, there is no short cut to help him. The best resolution for him is to be able to find his own solution, a counsellor guide and lead him to make the right decision.

You also need to understand his mental condition, this person would not be able to focus and able to understand what you are saying to him, because his mind is shattered and confuse with the pressure and stress level he is facing. Put yourself in his shoes. What will you do?

Q: How to help a mentally problem person?

Let’s assume one of your family members has a personality disorder,
The least that you can do is to recognize the problem; is to consult a professional care support group. The situation regarding this issue is the sick person denies his mental sickness. That’s the reason, when you need to contact a care support group, they are able to cope with this denial attitude and show him the way to recovery.

Q: Is recovery from mental disorder possible?

A: Yes, if earlier intervention and proper dose of medicine and proper motivational care. And he needs to get involve with a group of people doing some activities and not isolate himself at home.

First rule:

GET ADVICE FROM A PSYCHIATRIST; He will diagnose your child mental illness and the best bet is going to a private doctor who are more concern about the patient condition and giving the right dose of medication. You play a big role to understand the patient needs and relapses.

Second rule:

A physiatrist asks the patient; when is the last time your parents hug you with affection. The patient said, I can’t remember, it seems years. I am scared of my parents.

Third rule:

COMMITTED HEALTH GROUP; this commitment is vital as a process of remedy. The care giver are professionals who has experience to support such patients and able to take action of any urgent needs or giving motivational support. A listening ear and proper advice to the person is some of the key factors of conditioning the patient’s phobia or confuse thoughts.

Q: How to help the mental illness patient?

A positive approach is to undo depression, guilt by doing charitable activities. A smile will release tension off the heart and face of a stress person. Relax by deep breathing and hold the breath releasing slowly, at the same time visualizing releasing the pain and sorrow off the patient’s mind and thoughts.

Positive mental thoughts; Get the patient to understand that life has many challengers, each hurdles of challenge the patient face, will meet another challenge, The challenge is always be there for a person to think and work out his way to resolve situation, we called this maturity. A person needs to be strong like the mountains facing the weather, the winds and snow. These challengers build a person’s character, and knowing the past makes a person wiser from making the same mistakes.

Release sadness or depression by getting involved in activities and not slumber at home or isolated thinking of his miseries.

Make an appointment with the patient’s parents and build a collaboration to help resolve the situation at home, because if the parents give in and understand the patient, it will resolve hardships and phobia off the patient. And the most important thing for the parents is stop cursing and blaming, but instead they should extend and open arm with affection.